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How to Be a Boss: 19 Tips from Big Little Lies

Photo collage of the cast of Big Little Lies. From left to right, characters Mary Louise (Meryl Streep), Celeste (Nicole Kidman), Bonnie (Zoë Kravitz), Madeline (Reese Witherspoon) and Jane (Shailene Woodley)

So you wanna be a boss. Netflix andchillwill yourself to get off the couch already.How to Be a Boss (According to Your Favorite Shows)is your excuse to binge all the TV you want. It’s career inspiration, right?


On the surface, the women of Monterey may prioritize wealth, status, and the winning side of posh public-school politics. But Madeline, Celeste, Bonnie, Jane, and Renata ofBig Little Liesare a lot more complex than they initially seem—and proof of what can be accomplished by working collaboratively.

Whether it’s Celeste (Nicole Kidman) feeling reinvigorated as she dips back into law, or Madeline (Reese Witherspoon) feeding her ambitions to put on a puppet-fueled musical, it’s nearly impossible for anyone in this show to chase their dreams, survive hardships, or jump into a passion project without the support of good friends. Or, at the very least, people they’ve been forced to cross paths with regularly. These, as anyone in the workplace knows, can often be one in the same.

So, with that in mind, here are 19 tips to live by should you find yourself navigating the stormy seas of worklife like the oceanside upper class.

1. Pursue your passion projects. Feeling successful is essential to your well-being, so find something you care about and throw yourself into it. (Just watch out for unnecessary drama.)
Madeline disagrees with her community theater collaborator, Joseph (Santiago Cabrera).
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2. Dazzle allies, rivals, and frenemies alike with raw talent they can only aspire to. (Then, well, drop the mic.)
Bonnie (Zoe Kravitz) performs at the Audrey Hepburn–themed party, dressed as Audrey in My Fair Lady.
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3. Or put everyone to shame with your commitment to theme parties.
Bonnie and Renata (Laura Dern) make the most of a disco party.
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4. But you never know where loyalties may lie, so before deciding yours, meet and greet the power players in your social circle.
Jane Chapman (Shailene Woodley) shakes hands with Renata Klein (Laura Dern) as Madeline Martha Mackenzie (Reese) looks on.
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5. Check in with yourself when you start tending to your grudges like little pets.
Madeline leans back in her chair while wearing a burgundy coat.
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6. Watch for those who make bold, brazen declarations. (Because nothing screams “power” like reminding everyone of how much you have.)
Renata holds a wine glass and plots against her enemies.
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7.亲近的亲人。特别是他们会keep you grounded amid the chaos they have nothing to do with and, frankly, may not even understand.
玛德琳和埃德(亚当·斯科特)在准备晚餐kitchen for their daughters, Abigail (Kathryn Newton) and Chloe (Darby Camp).
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8. Team up to challenge those who’ve wronged you. (Pro tip: few things are as intimidating to rivals as the support of a best friend who knows how to legally navigate any and all situations.)
Celeste and Madeline sit at a table, successfully winning their case.
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9. But remember that, sometimes, the greatest bond is between family. And taking time to relax with them outside the confines of the office can help you unplug from work or distance yourself from daily pressures—like the grind of all those micro-gigs.
Jane hangs out at the beach with her son, Ziggy (Iain Armitage).
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10. That said, try to keep a safe distance fromanyonewho doesn’t have your best interest at heart.
Mary Louise Wright (Meryl Streep) goes out of her way to make Celeste feel uncomfortable in the wake of Perry’s death.
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11. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable, or to accept the love of those who care about you. It doesn’t make you weak, and it doesn’t make you less of a boss.
Ed presents Madeline with flowers.
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12. Remember: familial matters aren’t the right situations to showcase your power. (So, ahem, using your kid’s birthday as a political game to out-maneuver your nemesis is a losing proposition.)
Renata speaks to her daughter, Ambella (Ivy George).
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13. Avoid any professional or personal politics that don’t directly concern you. Particularly so you can build a life rich in what you love—or a life rich in observations and knowledge, should you ever need to insert yourself into a specific situation down the road.
Bonnie stands in a sunlit, holding a hat.
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14. Use your day-to-day routine as a way to stay present. Because, sometimes, without successfully preparing one’s fashion armor, it feels impossible to be prepared for battle.
Madeline prepares for the Audrey Hepburn party, perfecting her hair and makeup.
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15. Prioritize physical health—it can keep your mind sharp, your heart healthy, and most importantly, provide a way to spend quality time alongside those you know and trust most. After all, you never know when you might need one, or all, of ’em.
Jane, Madeline, and Celeste run along the beach.
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16. But also spend sufficient time planning for any upcoming confrontations and mapping out every potential outcome. Preparedness is key, even if it seems like an ideal scenario isn’t quite achievable—or even a possibility.
Jane, Madeline, and Celeste sit together outside, bonding after Jane’s first day in Monterey and shortly after meeting for the first time.
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17. Which is to say, remember that you’re more powerful when someone’s got your back.

Jane and Madeline are shocked by Celeste’s husband, Perry (Alexander Skarsgård).
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18. It also gets easier to cope with stress when you form close bonds with real friends who genuinely care about you.

Celeste, Jane, Ziggy, and Celeste’s twins spend a night hanging out.
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19. Just be sure to make amends when they’re due. Because if Madeline’s taught us anything, it’s that friendships can be formed even after years of animosity.

Bonnie and Madeline stand outside of Bonnie’s Jeep, talking.
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Words by Anne T. Donahue
Feature image by Niall McClelland

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